Halfway to Heaven

I don’t know what this will say about me, but this new year, this is my new favorite song – Halfway to Heaven by POP ETC.

Also, POP ETC is my new favorite band! Yaaayy!!! 😀

Fun facts: 1) according to Spotify, they’re originally called The Morning Benders, and when they learned that the term “benders” is a homophobic slur in some parts of the UK, they decided to change their name because they love their fans that much. Sweet! ❤
2) Their song "Speak Up" is a part of The Twilight Saga: Breaking Dawn Pt.2's original soundtrack. So if you're a fan of the series (either the books and/or the films), you better check that out if you haven't yet. 😉

The first time I heard this song at Old Navy during my shift, I fell in love with it. Now it's on my Spotify and their album has been playing on repeat ever since!

What I love about this song, first of all, is the melody. Old Navy plays a lot of music but half of it is not my type and this song was just very spot on the first time I heard it. The music is clean and very soothing, and when work gets rough and dragging, I hear this song and poof! Everything's okay again. 🙂

I also love the lyrics. I can relate a lot. I'm a very confused person; when life hands me lemons, I cry because I don't know where to put them since I already have so much in my hands. Lol.

In fact I don't know anymore where this post is going…

But before I say adieu, please check them out on Youtube and Twitter (@popetcetera). It's definitely going to be a good night! 🙂

Don’t eat, be skinny.

Tonight, I scrolled through a blog of a teenager‘s quest to be skinny. I was not able to read a lot from her page as it consists more of reblogged pictures of skinny women that I suppose are her “inspirations”. Aside from those, and her very short text posts about how insecure she feels about her body, she also posted a picture of her almost naked body (her head out of picture) to show her followers her “progress”.

Coming from someone who’s not in shape, she is not doing herself a favor. I know when it comes to being healthy, I’m not the one you’re supposed to be hearing advice from. But I know for a fact that starving yourself does not make you any better. I am not sure if her parents, or older siblings (if ever she has any), are aware of what she is going through, because she obviously doesn’t care about what she is really doing to herself. All she cares about is fitting in to a crowd full of skin-bone models who believe they are at their best. I assume she already knows the consequences of her actions, and that she doesn’t care because of what’s set in her head: she’s determined to have that 110 lbs. body.

I am a concerned netizen, yes, but I am usually not the type of person who would bother writing a blog about you not unless you’re a very important part of my life and that I have all the words to describe our relationship. However, her case really does worry me. I even sent her a message:

jessicafuentes asked: Hi. I don’t mean anything insulting or offending, but being skinny is not the definition of being beautiful. It doesn’t make you perfect. Sure it makes you look good on the outside, makes you more confident, lets you wear all kinds of clothes, etc. But that doesn’t make you beautiful. At all. Being healthy and having a kind heart does. What I said is conflicting with what you’re blogging about, but I guess we are all entitled to our opinions.. Guess that’s it. Just my two cents.

I am not sure if I sounded off friendly (I don’t think so either) but I just wanted to get those words out off my chest, while in hopes of her replying to me and actually proving me wrong…that she’s not wanting to be as skinny as those girls are in her photos, and that she wants to be healthy. But man, she didn’t. And I quote her:

“being skinny will make me feel beautiful. That’s all there is to it.”

And all I was able to say to myself was, “she’s crazy”. I figured that with that kind of mindset, sending her another message was not a good idea. I mean, she doesn’t care so why should she listen? And who am I for her to listen to?

Pfft.

What concerns me  more, aside from the fact that she wants to be pin-thin, is that she is just 15 years old. Yes. Very young, indeed. At that age, what she should mind is just doing good in school so she’d have a chance of going to a good university. Unfortunately, that kid was exposed too much to all sorts of media. There goes the television showing her commercials of how being thin is lovelier and sexier, TV programs that only have pretty and skinny girls as their lead characters that end up having the best of endings. Glossy magazines that have very inviting pictures of models that can never be beyond 100 lbs. Then there’s music, with bunches of pretty-faced dudes, telling her how much sexy girls attract them. And of course, we have the mighty Internet that is working 24/7 just to tell her that with a body full of fat, she can never fit into the society full of girls with thick make-ups, clothes too small and tattered that they don’t look like normal clothes at all, heels too high they’re considered as weapons of mass destruction, and boys with buff bodies telling her they’d only date girls who “fit in”. So basically, she’s left with no choice but do what the media is telling her. Because if she wouldn’t, she’d never live a happy life.

A preview of her blog.

But you know what? Bullshit. That’s it totally, undeniably, I-swear-to-my-dead-dogs-graves-and-to-my-brother’s-bacon-underwear, complete bullshit.

Again, this is coming from someone unhealthy. I would  already be extremely happy if we had the same body because I’m 30 pounds heavier than her. But because of what her mind believes is beautiful, she sees herself as someone who’s as large as a cow, when in fact, she has the ideal body most teenage girls would die for. Unluckily, she’s not seeing that. I feel sad for her. I really do.

My third point here is, her blog can influence a lot more girls. Just imagine how much more girls will be victimized by this epidemic anorexia that she is rooting for. Right now, reaching the age of 80 makes you very lucky. But if their generation will continue this very dangerous lifestyle to the point of passing it down to the next ones, age 50 will be a miracle. Personally, I’d like to live long enough to see my future grandchildren; so if I’m going to make a move, it’s going to be towards having a healthy life and being “skinny” will never be the center of my movement. I don’t want to be remembered by my future grandkids as a female meatball, as much as I don’t want to be remembered by them as a female pretzel stick.

There.

So whoever is reading this, please, for the sake of my dead dogs’ grave and my brother’s bacon underwear, do not succumb to what the media is telling you. Being skinny just covers a mere 1% of being beautiful. What matters is who you are entirely. What matters is the remaining 99%: your kind heart, your lively spirit, your Faith, and your healthy lifestyle. If the person next to you says otherwise, I am telling you s/he’s not a good influence for you. I am not saying that I am, but I just know this in my heart for a fact.

My Lazy Life Playlist

Being an out of school lady that I am, it sucks to wake up everyday and do the same freaking things daily. There’s just no life at all…almost. I can’t go out as  much as I want to because I have no more allowance. I can’t afford the latest fashion trends and I cannot even save for it because, again, there’s no allowance!

So that is why I decided to share to you, imaginary readers, some of my 700+ Walkman music. 🙂

20/20 – Pupil

Pupil is a local band here in the Philippines and they are ultimately cool! This song just has a great meaning: simple and no fuss kind of love song. I also love the way it was written, very poetic. ‘I wish that I could see the world through your eyes.‘ If that song was ever sung to me by anyone, I wouldn’t be able to hide my happiness! 🙂

Answer The Phone – Sugar Ray

This song’s guitar and drum beats and feel just picks up my mood from the ground. Starts with the simple head-bobbing then comes the mouthing of lyrics and the total rockstar-like singing that nobody would ever like to see me doing, no doubt.

Coming Around Again – Simon Webbe

This is my official good-vibes song! It’s so official, it has got to have its own title coming from me! I love it and it is so massive for me that I just have to play this before I get up from bed. The meaning is just downright inspiring and simple. ‘And all your winter sorrows/Hang ’em out and dry/Throw it away/Gotta throw it away/All the colorful days my friend/Are coming around again.’ Another reason would be was I have always been in love with the boys of Blue, the British boy band, that he was, and is (check the comeback), a part of. I had the biggest crush on Simon when I was younger and I just think that Blue will never ever be Blue without him. He’s just so talented. 🙂

DashboardModest Mouse

Oh this one! I found out about this song by Modest Mouse through Glee’s Dianna Agron‘s Tumblr Blog (http://felldowntherabbithole.tumblr.com) where she posted (I am not sure if she still does) playlists. And this is not the only song I liked from her playlists! There were a lot of artists I loved and appreciated because of her. 🙂 Anyway, this song is just so weird, I have got to love it! ‘The dashboard melted/But we still have the radio.’

Fingerprints – Katy Perry

Kitty Katy! I have always loved Katy Perry but I think her music was way more better during her One Of The Boys hype because it’s more real, if you know what I’m saying. This song is also inspiring, plus the music just makes me wanna dance! Her lyric-writing ability was at its best when she wrote this song. Plus, her religious background kind of shows here too. ‘Don’t give up/But don’t give in/Build you house on the rock/Oh not in the sand/In the sand/In the sand.’ Some parts of the lyrics are downright cool and honest, something you’d like to tell someone in the face! /Oh, I’m worth more than a X/More than a toe-tagged generation/Full of regrets.’

Frankly, Mr. Shankly – The Smiths

I just have to be a fan of these guys. After 500 Days of Summer, I looked up for more of their music and found this and became an ultimate part of my playlist. I am not really a fan of the new wave era but there is something with their music that gets me. Morrisey’s vocals are just soothing, it relaxes me all throughout. And how could be a song without a chprus or hook be so catchy? ‘Oh I didn’t realize you wrote poetry/I didn’t realize you wrote such pretty awful poetry/Mr. Shankly.’

Mr. Medicine – Eliza Doolittle

‘First drop and you get up/There’s a pile of dirty laundry/I know you’ll clean it up/You’re the man to do it for me’ This is an example of amazing Brit-music. Eliza just made me a certified Brit-music fan through her music. 🙂 And they say she wrote this when she was 12; how more talented could she ever be? This takes my boredom away and carries me off to daydream land. 🙂

I never knew until today…

…that I am such a fangirl.

FANGIRL

A female who has overstepped the line between healthy fandom and indecent obsession

– Urban Dictionary

Last night I decided to download songs that aren’t usually played on-air in the current times. So I wrote down the name of artists I love/like. And that list included the British pop boyband Blue.

So when I played their songs, I realized that I still know them all by heart! ♥ I used to play their albums over and over until they had scratches on them. I was so young then and they were my first *cough* boyfriends. :”)

I am very much looking forward to their next projects! ♥